(08/08/2010 07:34 PM)lembas Wrote:  

(08/08/2010 07:04 PM)DataKRASH Wrote:  when you're in a relationship and someone says that they love you, that means they accept you for you, not for who they want you to be.

so much this.

(08/08/2010 07:30 PM)boogschd Wrote:  enjoy being single for a bit? :)

until someone comes along that you feel is worth the trouble :D

also, this.

don't date someone just to date someone.

but dating someone to date someone, doesn't that lead to relationships?

(08/08/2010 07:52 PM)LumpiaWarrior Wrote:  but dating someone to date someone, doesn't that lead to relationships?

it may lead to that.. it may not...

depends really on what your intentions are :D

(08/08/2010 07:04 PM)DataKRASH Wrote:  Well, only you can make the decision of whether or not you should be with her or not, but usually when you're in a relationship and someone says that they love you, that means they accept you for you, not for who they want you to be.  So if she wants to change you, then the person she wants you to be is not really you.  Unless... you want to change for her, and you love her that much.

Well the first year wee were together it was really good, but then from then it went downhill. I think it happened when wee both kinda realized the bigger aspects of life. However she has always been so gungho about what to do but I was not.

(08/08/2010 07:54 PM)boogschd Wrote:  

(08/08/2010 07:52 PM)LumpiaWarrior Wrote:  but dating someone to date someone, doesn't that lead to relationships?

it may lead to that.. it may not...

depends really on what your intentions are :D

well im not the type of person to just have a good fudge and run away im not that type of person. I believe there should be conversation.

hey, if her brothers ever try to beat you up, and im around, then well see who made the bad decision.

also, im going to be honest with you buddy (as i always am)
me and steven were talking about it a while back.

when she broke up with you that first time, she gave you bullshit reasons that were either gross exaggerations, or just out and out lies.

you took it like the respectable, good person wee knew you to be, and changed what you could, and everything else, you made a massive effort to change.

then she got back with you.

wee both thought that it was you who made the mistake, in taking her back. sure shes nice, and sure shes pretty, but she treated you like spoon. in all honesty.

then when you guys were back together, it still didnt seem right to me. to me, it didnt feel like it did when you were together before. even lucas said your relationship seemed "weird".

then you told me about how her parents were making spoon up about you, and fucking with her head, and i thought "shit, shes not even really sticking up for him"

now that she broke up with you a second time, im going to say what i didnt want to tell you last time: shes just using you.

i know you like her, and i can only imagine how much it would hurt if you told me that about someone, but its the truth.

at this point, it seems like either shes completely forgotten about all the good things you guys had together, or just doesn't care. her parents are talking to her all the time about how awful you are (and you know how close her family is, shes hearing it constantly, i can guarrantee you) and in the end, shes going to side with them, simply because shes always around them.

in all honesty, i don't see how this could work out well.

just know that im here for you buddy.

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plus, i can tell you, there is no place better to vent than here.

i did at one point too, it really helps.

(08/08/2010 07:55 PM)LumpiaWarrior Wrote:  well im not the type of person to just have a good fudge and run away im not that type of person. I believe there should be conversation.

good for you :) .  
well whatever works for you ..
enjoy being single or if you should feel like dating a few pplz then why not

goodluck LumpiaWarrior

Maybe take a break from the dating scene and work on bettering yourself with your therapist.

Not sure what to say about your girl, sick_demented99 said it all. ^^

LumpiaWarrior Wrote:Cause since she has broken up, I have that feeling like a big weight was lifted off my back. Sure I am sad but I feel free.

Hmm... From this quote it seems that if you feel like a big weight has been lifted, then that means she was probably nothing but a burden and was dragging you down.  Also, when she said you were "Mentally Unstable" and threatened to call suicide watch on you, I think she insulted your self-esteem a little.  (I don't really know, but it would seem that way if someone said that to me...)  Though, she probably said that out of whatever emotion she was feeling, but I thought that was kind of messed up.  It was like she was throwing salt in your wounds.  She broke up with and now she's threatening you.  That's pretty much what I gathered from that.

(08/08/2010 08:00 PM)trademark91 Wrote:  hey, if her brothers ever try to beat you up, and im around, then well see who made the bad decision.

also, im going to be honest with you buddy (as i always am)
me and steven were talking about it a while back.

when she broke up with you that first time, she gave you bullshit reasons that were either gross exaggerations, or just out and out lies.

you took it like the respectable, good person wee knew you to be, and changed what you could, and everything else, you made a massive effort to change.

then she got back with you.

wee both thought that it was you who made the mistake, in taking her back. sure shes nice, and sure shes pretty, but she treated you like spoon. in all honesty.

then when you guys were back together, it still didnt seem right to me. to me, it didnt feel like it did when you were together before. even lucas said your relationship seemed "weird".

then you told me about how her parents were making spoon up about you, and fucking with her head, and i thought "shit, shes not even really sticking up for him"

now that she broke up with you a second time, im going to say what i didnt want to tell you last time: shes just using you.

i know you like her, and i can only imagine how much it would hurt if you told me that about someone, but its the truth.

at this point, it seems like either shes completely forgotten about all the good things you guys had together, or just doesn't care. her parents are talking to her all the time about how awful you are (and you know how close her family is, shes hearing it constantly, i can guarrantee you) and in the end, shes going to side with them, simply because shes always around them.

in all honesty, i don't see how this could work out well.

just know that im here for you buddy.


plus, i can tell you, there is no place better to vent than here.

i did at one point too, it really helps.

you really think so tony, i guess she was a bitch then. I guess I was more in denial about those kinds of things and i wanted to avoid conflict.

You know how i am super passive about things.

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(08/08/2010 08:14 PM)DataKRASH Wrote:  

LumpiaWarrior Wrote:Cause since she has broken up, I have that feeling like a big weight was lifted off my back. Sure I am sad but I feel free.

Hmm... From this quote it seems that if you feel like a big weight has been lifted, then that means she was probably nothing but a burden and was dragging you down.  Also, when she said you were "Mentally Unstable" and threatened to call suicide watch on you, I think she insulted your self-esteem a little.  (I don't really know, but it would seem that way if someone said that to me...)  Though, she probably said that out of whatever emotion she was feeling, but I thought that was kind of messed up.  It was like she was throwing salt in your wounds.  She broke up with and now she's threatening you.  That's pretty much what I gathered from that.

I guess the salt in the wound was what pushes things for me, she was the one that wanted me to go to anger management class, but should i even go anymore?
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(08/08/2010 08:12 PM)1-R Wrote:  Maybe take a break from the dating scene and work on bettering yourself with your therapist.

That's what i was planning to do but she didnt give me enough time to resolve things.

Well, if you are still having trouble controling your anger then I think you should still go, but that's for you to decide.  Also, if she wants you to change so badly, then she should be patient.  Change takes time.  It doesn't happen overnight.  I notice people tend to change because they want to, so if you want to be with and change for her, then that's also for you to decide.