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Tetris999 · 15/03/2012 10:07 PM

First off, I don't spend too much time hanging out with women (or anyone for that matter) but I do talk to them as oftenly as I do with other guys, so I do think that I have a bit of a right to come to some understanding of what I experienced thus far.

I was lectured by a girl today on how saying "This question is retarded" is an extremely bad thing and how I should feel bad on using it. Her reasoning wasn't flawed (she didn't give me any reasons as to why it was bad at first, I had to get there myself by prodding her and coming to a conclusion on my own) and while I did agree with it, it's still something she needed to ease up about. Yeesh.

I also believe on average, they're really judgemental and never like to argue, I find that when a girl has a differing opinion is that she'll do one or two things:

One sidedly believe that she is right and hate me for what I think.
Try to avoid argument and not saying anything further/not say anything.

Thus achieving a middle ground with a normal women is almost impossible for me, as I'll have to reason for myself and reach a consensus on my own to agree with them (carrying out the argument within myself) which is something that I did, obviously, today.

But that kills all the fun out of talking with others and achieving a higher sense of understanding, which is why I find it terribly difficult to talk to women as small talk (a thing with minimal moral implications) is something I suck at. Yeesh.

I should talk to more women, I believe there is a female out there that won't instantly come to some judgement about my character as soon as I say something that is out of line with what she agrees with.

E.g. If I said something like: "I don't like gays"
Male: "Now why would you think that...?"
Female: "I HATE YOU SO MUCH YOU ASSHOLE"

 This is an example, I don't hate gays, I'm just using a strong moral statement that would otherwise make the average female flip shit

Everytime.

P.S. This all just conjecture, I'm not dropping the ball and saying I'm entirely right about my thoughts but I haven't seen anything yet to make me view the current situation differently. Also, I'm not an ignorant person, I LIKE to change my views based on good arguments that support or reject an idea as long as they make _sense_.

ZiNgA BuRgA · 15/03/2012 10:38 PM

My experience doesn't agree with you.
I know quite a few girls who will overly agree with anything you say, to the point that I simply can't trust them.
On the other hand, I know guys who act as if they know it all and simply will refuse to think of anything differently.

Vacui Natale · 15/03/2012 10:39 PM

(15/03/2012 10:07 PM)Tetris999 Wrote: E.g. If I said something like: "I don't like gays"
Male: "Now why would you think that...?"
Female: "I HATE YOU SO MUCH YOU ASSHOLE"

I can kind of explain this. See, when a woman believes in something, she believes in it wholeheartedly. So much, in fact, that it becomes a part of her. So when you say you don't like ______ she's going to get really offended because she thinks that you don't like her, because you don't agree with her views. For some women, this is a deal breaker, because she wants to be right about EVERYTHING. I find women who have huge egos want to be right about everything.

Personally, I don't care if a man or woman disagrees with what I think. In fact, I was with a girl who agreed with and liked everything I said. I could say "I shot up an orphanage," and she still wouldn't have a negative opinion of me. I find that annoying... >_>

Tetris999 · 15/03/2012 11:05 PM

(15/03/2012 10:38 PM)ZiNgA BuRgA Wrote: My experience doesn't agree with you.
I know quite a few girls who will overly agree with anything you say, to the point that I simply can't trust them.
On the other hand, I know guys who act as if they know it all and simply will refuse to think of anything differently.

Oh I've definitely come across both said archetypes, but with girls that overly agree with you can be tied into the second point of where they want to avoid argument by simply agreeing with you so much that you really question that they think the same way you do, which is kinda what I was trying to get at.

I knew one girl like this and found out a year later that she hated my guts, boy did I feel bad that I felt that I was "free" talk with her. These types are -dangerous- I tell you and are easily approached, be cautious.

(15/03/2012 10:39 PM)Vacui Natale Wrote:
(15/03/2012 10:07 PM)Tetris999 Wrote: E.g. If I said something like: "I don't like gays"
Male: "Now why would you think that...?"
Female: "I HATE YOU SO MUCH YOU ASSHOLE"

I can kind of explain this. See, when a woman believes in something, she believes in it wholeheartedly. So much, in fact, that it becomes a part of her. So when you say you don't like ______ she's going to get really offended because she thinks that you don't like her, because you don't agree with her views. For some women, this is a deal breaker, because she wants to be right about EVERYTHING. I find women who have huge egos want to be right about everything.

Personally, I don't care if a man or woman disagrees with what I think. In fact, I was with a girl who agreed with and liked everything I said. I could say "I shot up an orphanage," and she still wouldn't have a negative opinion of me. I find that annoying... >_>

Thanks for clearing that up for me Vacui, it's always awesome to have someone working on the inside :3. Also just like with my reply to Zinga, I've also came across girls like this (never in a relationship though, but I assume it's a lot more prevalent because a girl usually wants to be on the good side of her partner).

ZiNgA BuRgA · 15/03/2012 11:36 PM

(15/03/2012 11:05 PM)Tetris999 Wrote: Oh I've definitely come across both said archetypes, but with girls that overly agree with you can be tied into the second point of where they want to avoid argument by simply agreeing with you so much that you really question that they think the same way you do, which is kinda what I was trying to get at.

I knew one girl like this and found out a year later that she hated my guts, boy did I feel bad that I felt that I was "free" talk with her. These types are -dangerous- I tell you and are easily approached, be cautious.

I don't mean the "yeah yeah, whatever" type of agreement, rather, people who actually talk and discuss things against their views. Whilst I like people who can interpret things from multiple viewpoints, I don't like those who do so deceptively.

Tetris999 · 15/03/2012 11:41 PM

(15/03/2012 11:36 PM)ZiNgA BuRgA Wrote: I don't mean the "yeah yeah, whatever" type of agreement, rather, people who actually talk and discuss things against their views. Whilst I like people who can interpret things from multiple viewpoints, I don't like those who do so deceptively.

That is...strange, but I do feel I've met one girl that is somewhat like this, it's baffling that you've met "quite a few".

Pretty strange personality if you ask me, I just never really considered this something you see normally.

games like a grrl · 19/03/2012 09:29 AM

Boys...
Just accept that wee're right and you're wrong.
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eKusoshisut0 · 19/03/2012 09:31 AM

NEVER!!!

S7* · 19/03/2012 09:33 AM

(19/03/2012 09:29 AM)games like a grrl Wrote: Boys...
Just accept that wee're right and you're wrong.

That gif was worth opening a new tab to get it working.

13thprotector · 19/03/2012 09:41 AM

Women should be respected and treated above us men, besides, they control if wee have offspring or not, they might as well control the world behind everyone's back. Besides, if they apply themselves more, there are many arcane skills that a woman can learn, skills that if any mundane man had, they would burn half the world away.

I shall bow to women, out of fear and respect, but mostly respect.....

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