(24/05/2011 05:47 PM)Slushba132 Wrote:  Everyone is attached to everything simply "because", because it's tradition, or because everyone else does it so why not. Nobody thinks for themselves, why should anyone be obligated to do anything? Simply because people before them did the same?

You are partially correct in thinking that people do naturally feel grateful to their parents, perhaps beyond common sense, but you are incorrect in saying that nobody thinks for themselves, or just simply following tradition.
There are spurious traditions (eg celebrating Christmas - you don't have to do it), but there are ones which are based on good values and judgement.  And even if people follow it because they can't think for themselves does not mean that it's a "bad" tradition.

If you are going to try to think everything through logically with reasoning then you really do have to make sure you have all your facts straight, or your reasoning simply falls apart.

I can understand that not all parents are the best - there are ones which abuse their children and whatnot.  Nonetheless, most have spent the effort to bring one up in the world.

No, you didn't choose to do this, neither would you have ever had the choice anyway if you never existed.  No, you didn't choose your parents, but you never had any right to in the first place.  This is a pointless argument to pursue.

I'm not saying you have to love your parents.  If you truly don't feel that way, then it seems pointless to try to convince yourself to do so.  However you should take into consideration what others have done for you - not just the negative aspects which make you hate someone, but also the positive aspects which you seem to be ignoring.  Ultimately, it's unlikely that you'll ever break up your relationship with your mother, so it may be worthwhile thinking about how to achieve some common ground to suit the both of you.


Having said that, you perhaps don't seem to be too harsh.  It sounds like you've tried to help her (not by much) and if I'm getting your mood, she doesn't seem to be doing much to try to help herself.  I personally would put more effort into trying to help her get what she wants/needs, even if you think it's pointless/childish.

(This post was last modified: 24/05/2011 06:30 PM by ZiNgA BuRgA.)