not a standard set up by society, just my two cents. everything in this world is somewhat inaccurate, you can use that rule to bend anything not to hit you directly. however, hit or not hit, that's for others to judge, not the target, nor the shooter.

no one can stop you from being an asshole if you desire it. I'm not even trying to convince you to go to comfort her.
i just pity the people existent that directly and indirectly related to you through any connection. including me having to see your presence in this place.