fake it till you make it - if you're not a confident fellow now, just pretend long enough and you will be later. it's so easy to fudge up first impressions, and some people are not quick to forgive awkward social interaction. basically, live well and be the best person you can be and you can be confident someone will see you and recognize you're a catch. just wait for that. other than that, flirt and have fun, fudge up sometimes, stand back up and keep on going.

the best thing any man can say: "i got 99 problems but a bitch aint one."