ZiNgA BuRgA Wrote:I probably said this before, but one of your issues is not being a "social leader" and being a little too self conscious.  You worry too much about other people's perception about you and you like to hide certain aspects of yourself (out of worry that it might damage the perception others have of you).  It's a bit of a mental task, and you'll really have to find the optimal solution, but try thinking that others really don't care about you so much.  I imagine you do care a fair bit about what others do, so it might be difficult for you to accept that others may not consider you as so important.

you did indeed say that, but that's not technically the case because this is not some normal retard you might meet at school. Its my brother, and as much as i hate or like him he will always be a resident of my household and a child of my parents. Meaning, that what he perceives of me is very important for a number of things; and that i don't want my parents (who are the people i care about what they think of me) don't believe the spoon my bro will tell them. Having said that, hes always going to be a resident of my house and its nearly impossible to shut your brother out of your life one way or another. I still have very awkard moments like him driving me to school or something and i do not like to sit in any of these situations at all.

As for the social aspect, it did prove to be damaging for what he said; but only to the people who knew a bit or at all, my friends were puzzled by it (because they are also friends of my bro) but they dismissed the idea; but in that sense i did not like being put into such a stupid situation in the first place. Its not really bothering that people know i watch anime, heck if you see my xbox live i play tales of vesperia and other anime related games and when people bring up the topic i get right into it; so it doesn't bother me much that people know i like anime.

ZiNgA BuRgA Wrote:Think of it this way - so what if they think you like watching anime girls?  They'll probably think you have weird tastes, but if you're a good friend, they'll easily overlook it, after all, I doubt they're thinking that you'll do anything "weird" to them, so they have little reason to dislike you on the basis of that.  Don't be ashamed of what you like (note, not suggesting you like it, but if it's the general perception of you, just go along with it - you do enjoy anime don't you?) - there are people out there with much more bizarre preferences than you.

love anime :P

and i do know a friend who actually SAYS to people that he watches yuri and ecchi related content; and he has plenty of friends to hang out with.

But you are right zinga, i do have to tone down and heighten my self esteem and discard what people say about myself; sorry that you had to post and say the same thing twice, but it is really reassuring; thanks, i would give you 100+ rep and a hug (manly o'course)

P.S. why aren't you a psychiatrist yet? your really good at this, a big thumbs up :P

(This post was last modified: 06/01/2009 04:52 AM by Tetris999.)