So basically i guess im in love with someone and its just causing me a lot of problems.
To start off the bat there's a girl i hang with a lot and after awhile of being with her she's just really grew on me but at the same time my friend (he knew her for less than i did) now wants to tell her that he loves her. Great, because that's the same thing I've wanting to be doing and now im just full jealously and confusion.
Sure im probably the wimp not to ask first because i did feel quite inferior in my relationship to her as much as my friend. So now im sitting here wondering what i should do, should i run in front of my friend (because i know when he's going to ask) and tell her straight up (and if i get rejected that's great because then i will know it'll be impossible to get with her) that i love her or wait for him to ask.
The thing is that im scared of what she's going to say to him because they were in a temporary 3 week relationship before and just by the looks of it they already look all lovey-dovey; i don't want her to answer his question before mine.
Eff, i feel like a jackass but she's the only person that would make my heart leap 10 beats when i first saw her. I even turned down another girl asking me out just so i could walk with her for 30 minutes. If it wasn't my friend i wouldn't be confused as i am right now, he's a good guy and i want his life to be happy but i feel like i don't want to lose her to him.
Yeahhhhhhh, i guess its just another teen angst that normally happens but i feel like I'll be able to get with no one if i don't ask her; i want my doubt cleared and my questions answered before any spoon happens.
I guess i want to be taken seriously, but it feels better writing this out and asking opinions from the people of the net than sitting here and doing nothing
No one could possibly told you what to do , its you on your own.
And youll find your answers inside , you shold just listen to your head.
Not your heart , and your hormones (idk how to spell it)
Anyway , don't fall for love , its coming without a notice , when its there you ll know.
And in love there are no rules , no friends , i should say the friendship is before love.
and meh , if she don't recognize you , shes not for you , close page and keep going.
love could make you suffer a lot , with no reasonable explanation , so fudge it.
Enjoy your life and be happy , don't do drugs (they will rape your soul) and love will
find you when you less expect.
madonna : love is a bird she needs to fly.
Dr. Doom
PD : my opinion must not be taken serious , don't blame me ...
do what you do , on your own , nobody could give you the right answer.
gsmoke Wrote:PD : my opinion must not be taken serious , don't blame me ...
do what you do , on your own , nobody could give you the right answer.
yeah i guess that's what it comes down to
Let me tell you things...
1) She is not the only girl you will ever think about. So even if you lose her, you will find someone else. But let me warn you about one thing... the harder you try to hold on to the concept of a relationship that won't be, the more you'll screw up the relationship that is there.
2) You will have to think of this situation from 2 point of views... yours and the girls. You have to be selfish, given... but you really need to understand what the girl is thinking. Trust me... this has paid of for me all the time... the one time I did not consider the fact that the girl I like likes me as a friend, I screwed up so big that... rest is the usual story...
Let me give you a piece of advice that you should really take.... don't change your way of life for her... not only will she miss it (if she's not into you), she may even exploit it... or if she's decent, get angry because of it.
Rest is upto you mate!
Ask first, he already had a thing with her so now its your turn :p
If she says no then you know that that's it, but if you don't ask you'll always wonder "what if"
feinicks Wrote:Let me tell you things...
1) She is not the only girl you will ever think about. So even if you lose her, you will find someone else. But let me warn you about one thing... the harder you try to hold on to the concept of a relationship that won't be, the more you'll screw up the relationship that is there.
2) You will have to think of this situation from 2 point of views... yours and the girls. You have to be selfish, given... but you really need to understand what the girl is thinking. Trust me... this has paid of for me all the time... the one time I did not consider the fact that the girl I like likes me as a friend, I screwed up so big that... rest is the usual story...
Let me give you a piece of advice that you should really take.... don't change your way of life for her... not only will she miss it (if she's not into you), she may even exploit it... or if she's decent, get angry because of it.
Rest is upto you mate!
got it, thanks feinicks
i might as well sit and see what happens, but i still feel like telling her is the right thing to do (just clears things up).
Mickey Wrote:Ask first, he already had a thing with her so now its your turn :p
If she says no then you know that that's it, but if you don't ask you'll always wonder "what if"
my exact point, so i guess i should try
Tetris999 Wrote:feinicks Wrote:Let me tell you things...
1) She is not the only girl you will ever think about. So even if you lose her, you will find someone else. But let me warn you about one thing... the harder you try to hold on to the concept of a relationship that won't be, the more you'll screw up the relationship that is there.
2) You will have to think of this situation from 2 point of views... yours and the girls. You have to be selfish, given... but you really need to understand what the girl is thinking. Trust me... this has paid of for me all the time... the one time I did not consider the fact that the girl I like likes me as a friend, I screwed up so big that... rest is the usual story...
Let me give you a piece of advice that you should really take.... don't change your way of life for her... not only will she miss it (if she's not into you), she may even exploit it... or if she's decent, get angry because of it.
Rest is upto you mate!
got it, thanks feinicks
i might as well sit and see what happens, but i still feel like telling her is the right thing to do (just clears things up).
Mickey Wrote:Ask first, he already had a thing with her so now its your turn :p
If she says no then you know that that's it, but if you don't ask you'll always wonder "what if"
my exact point, so i guess i should try
That you should do, but be ready for reverse consequence... it may happen that she will start drifting from you... See... in all my life I have asked a girl (not the same one... >_>) out for an total of 3 times (man.. what a drag)... Twice it worked, once it did not. But the One time was because of a fore mentioned causes... and it really screwed up the friendship... Tell her, if you think you must, but in a way that says that you're not forcing her to make a choice... if she does make a choice, then nothing you can do.. (either ways.. for and against you..)
It really comes down to how you handle the situation... really...
Take it from a girl. She could feel the same way and is to shy to say something to you. The way it works some times is that both people are waiting for the other to make the first move. But its one of those things if you aren't willing to jump you'll never know if you can fly.
Id say I would ask her...
but usually I get up to do it walk right up to them and then chicken out XD
this results in my looking like a weirdo for walking up to a girl and staring at her for no apparent reason...
I do wonder what your friend would think though If you suddenly asked her right before him...
maybe he would think you were trying to 'borrow' her away just because he likes her...
I would at least tell your friend first or maybe jokingly tell him to back off because you wanted her first... Idk
crazieladi24 Wrote:if you aren't willing to jump you'll never know if you can fly.
The only thing about flying is that it becomes easier to break a leg
Slushba132 Wrote:Id say I would ask her...
but usually I get up to do it walk right up to them and then chicken out XD
this results in my looking like a weirdo for walking up to a girl and staring at her for no apparent reason...
I do wonder what your friend would think though If you suddenly asked her right before him...
maybe he would think you were trying to 'borrow' her away just because he likes her...
I would at least tell your friend first or maybe jokingly tell him to back off because you wanted her first... Idk
that's the problem im facing right now, i don't know whether to do it or not
theres much to lose and there's a slight chance of success; but i feel like that success is the most important thing to me in my life >_>
either way, if i ask he WILL get angry; no doubt about that