Endless Paradigm

I have always wondered why do people pretend. They pretend to blend into a crowd, pretend to be happy if something good happens and everyone around them is laughing. Pertend to fit in. What is the motive behind all the pretense? I can answer some of that. Wee are a species that was designed to live in social circles. Like the primates of now, wee must have once hunted, eaten, slept etc in tightly packed groups. Protected each other from whatever danger. I guess our technology advanced, our level of thinking grew, our standard and mode of living improved drastically. Wee began to dominate the globe, but in all that wee never lost our most intrinsic animalic (I may have invented the word!) instincts. wee hunger for food, shelter, sex, children etc. So how have wee "changed". Wee only added a number of thing to the "need" list, but have failed to eliminate even one of the basic ones. I would have to guess that acceptance is one of them. Humans can't function properly in a lonely environment. They need the physical touch, the verbal communique, the emotional support etc. Leave a man alone on an island for a year, its a good chance that he won't be able to pull off a Tom Hanks, changing (if managing to survive) drastically.

In order to be accepted, I will have to presume that many people will lie about themselves. For instance: Guys lie to girls to get laid. girls lie... well they lie. (XD) People lie about being liberal in a society that is full of liberals. I guess that pretense comes because people will do anything to have company. Because they can't stand to not have that. Surprisingly they shed their beliefs and thought so that they won't contradict the "bigger picture."

Despicable, isn't it?

So how do you care about what people think of you?

quite an interesting question (actually i was thinking about one of my own situations; if you have been reading up lately) personally i think people do this because yes; they fear being kicked out of the social mainstream

i guess its really hard to be able to live in a world where people despise what you may think, so you have to act another way for them to like you

it might be dispicable, but as you have said; were a society that lives with the communication with others. Wee fear each other, and that's why wee need to get along with eachother;

Seriously, i never understood why people are always so diffrent; but from what i believe is that there are a group of people who think (or almost) exactly like me: thus they tend to be the group i socalize with (and yes this is were seperation occurs; but again what can you do? not everyone shares your belief)

yes, its a troubling world to be an intelligent being

I know exactly what you mean!!!

One of my "friends" (I don't like him much, because he really frustrates me) is pretending to be someone he isn't. Like in Yr11 he was the schools nerdy boy kinda, but now he mocks and is horrible to the people who he once was (if that makes sense).
He's trying to be a rebel, but the fact is that he would never do anything slightly rebelious against anything really......and he thinks he's smarter than everyone else and only his opinions matter. (This isn't just a rant, it's actually getting somewhere). The fact is that he is trying to be someone he's not just to impress people meaninglessly.

I am just myself, and I don't really want to impress anybody........

Tetris999 Wrote:i guess its really hard to be able to live in a world where people despise what you may think, so you have to act another way for them to like you

^^ that's pretty much it... wait till you get older.. it only gets worse.. i tear myself up about this stuff all the time because im guilty of doing it.... online im free to be myself... but i have to act irl.. alot.. because i have to worry about what people think as i don't want to alienated by society... sucks but hey that how it goes... have to adapt or learn to have a hidden life